Being the beauty...

According to you I'm stupid, I'm useless, I can't do anything right. According to you I'm difficult, hard to please, forever changing my mind. I'm a mess in a dress, can't show up on time, even if it would save my life. According to you. According to you.

~According to you by Orianthi

If we are not deemed worthy of love as children, it is incredibly difficult to believe we are worth loving as adults. Shame says we are unworthy, broken, and beyond repair.

~Captivating by John and Stasi Eldredge

It's a phrase that we've heard too often in Sunday school and bible studies, and for most of us, it's lost it's impact. We grow up hearing that "Jesus loves you" but how many of us really believed that? I didn't. I believed anything but that. I looked in the mirror and saw a chubby, clumsy girl. I think most of us will admit to that. We saw something in the mirror, but it was anything but beautiful to us.

Why is that? Why is it so hard to believe that God loves us, and than in turn, to love ourselves? Why, specifically for women, can we never find peace with who God's made us to be? Is it society? Our culture? Unrealistic expectations?

Yes, all those things play a part, but I believe the real problem rests within our hearts. Somewhere deep inside every woman is a question; am I beautiful? I remember playing dress up with my childhood friend. We loved donning my mothers night gowns, pearls, and old shoes. We'd always play Cinderella, or Beauty and the beast, and every time without fail we'd fight over who was 'the beauty.' See, the world has taught us that some are beautiful, and others just aren't. Some are the stepsisters, some are the queens, some are the cinder girls, and some are Cinderella. It never occured to us that we could 'all' be the beauty did it? It never occured to us that we 'are' the beauty.

In Genesis God deems it unfit that man should be alone and fashions for him an "ezer kenegdo." Most often translated "helper" or "helpmeet" neither of these terms do the original Hebrew justice. As John Eldredge points out, ezer kenegdo is only used a handful of other times in the bible and refers to God himself. A more appropriate term would be "sustainer" or "life saver." And beauty does sustain doesn't it? On a bad day, flowers are a welcome relief. For the weary minded, nature often assuages a multitude of troubles. Without beauty where would we be? It's God's kiss, it's His way of saying "here's a gift." You're a gift.

Every woman has a beauty all her own, and somewhere deep down we know that's true. It's why we long to be "the beauty." But the enemy loves to tell us we're less. He loves to tell us what we fear most- that we don't have a beauty to unfurl. That's where we are wounded, and that's why we see so many women striving and hiding, overcontrolling, or overly passive. We've lost something in believing the enemy. We've lost the truth

If we really believed that God loved us, wouldn't we live our lives differently? If we believed that the Creator of the Universe was enthralled with our character, our body, our mind what would that look like? We'd be unstoppable, and the enemy knows that.

If you haven't gotten a revelation of God's love, if you don't know with your head and your heart that He's mad about you, then take this moment to ask Him. You may just find out that in the fairy tale of your life, you always were and always will be the beauty, and the King is enthralled by you.

But according to him I'm beautiful, incredible, he can't get me out of his head. According to him I'm funny, irresistible, everything he ever wanted. Everything is opposite, I don't feel like stopping it, so baby tell me what I got to lose. He's into me for everything I'm not, according to you.

~According to you, by Orianthi


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